My heart aches

We all know that death is a certainty and even though we know it will happen, the exerience of such a loss is always laden with pain. Even if we have the priviledge of thinking we are as prepared as we possibly could be for the loss in such cases as an illness and elderly, it never is exactly how we think it's going to be. You just can not prepare for loosing a loved one. Especially in the case of sudden death, it is so shocking and can be difficult so to cope because your whole world is flipped upside down. Nothing is as you expected it to be. You have had no preperation at all. It makes it very difficult to process feelings when you feel so robbed.

The reason I am writing about this today is because a dear friend of mine experienced a tragic loss yesterday. Her boyfriend was in a motorcycle accident and lost his life. My insides have been all in a twisted knot since hearing of the accident. I didn't have the chance to meet him, but I just ache for my friend and the torment she is having to endure at this time. I have shed tears of my own for this tragic accident. I just wish I could wrap my arms around her and make her pain go away. I know that is not possible and that she will need time, but when you love someone you just so badly want to erase their pain.

All I can do is offer my love and support. And this gentle reminder that because you have experienced this sudden loss you know that tomorrow is promised to no one. This awarness can help you focus your attention on what is truely important in your life, so you don't get lost in the trival matters and lose sight of those things that are most important to you. It is a way you can begin to create meaning out of such a tragedy. Sending you love.