I know my way to 9

I have never heard it explained any more simple than this,... "There is more than one way to get to nine. You could go, 8 + 1, then there's the 4 + 5 option, you could even go the 3 + 6 route." And none of those even take into account all the negative numbers plus positive numbers that would get you to the number 9.

What's the point? There's always a point, right? The point is, if the objective is for all of us to get to the same place, in this example the #9, do you really care how I get to 9, as long as it doesn't affect you getting to 9.

Now simply replace the #9 with the word happiness. I'll get to happiness my way and you do it your way. That way we both win.