Some may say, "I am all alone. I don't have someone to love", but that is never true because we always have ourselves. It can be easy to forget sometimes when we are focused outwardly, but when we take a moment to slow down, take a deep breath and look within ourselves we can see there is no one better to focus our love upon.
I am reminded of a refrigerator magnet my mom gave me when I was a very young mother. I can't remember everything on it, but what I do remember is the gist, which was; you can't give what you do not have. It was a huge eyeopener for me because like most people I wanted an improved life for my son. I knew I had to get myself out of the destructive relationship I was in, because I did not feel loved, supported or empowered. I was so miserable I often just wanted to disappear. The only thing that kept me here on this earth was the love I had for my son and the improved life I wanted for him. I had to pull myself up by the bootstraps and make a better way for myself, so I could provide a better way for him.
My something to do for many years was putting energy into my son. Creating boundaries for him, teaching him values and creating space for him to choose what he felt was best for him. Guiding him in a positive direction and letting go to allow him to find his own way. As a young man he often would ask my opinion about what he should do and I recall telling him, I could tell you what I would do, but that might affect your choice. Why don't you tell me what you think is best for you and then we can talk about it. I wanted him to have a strong sense of himself.
When he moved out, I had quite a bit of time on my hands, my something to do turned into art. Painting, carving, drawing and trying to get into galleries. Art is very subjective and though I am blessed with the ability to paint, it just wasn't as fulfilling as I wanted it to be. Then my thing to do morphed into writing this blog.
This blog has been very fulfilling. I love the introspection of it, the sharing, the drawing and creating virtual hugs for people who read it. I love expanding love. Apozitude is my bucket and I am filling it with love and each new person who reads it is helping me pour love all over the world.
I am very happy as I look forward to the expansion of Apozitude reaching people who need a little something in their lives to anticipate. Maybe you or someone you love needs a little reminder that often it is the little things that mean the most. One kind thing you express to a loved one or a stranger, may well be the one thing they needed that day to turn their attitude around to the sunnier side of things.
To summarize, not only have I provided the formula for a happy life, I have also provided a way to put the formula to work. Think of someone you love, maybe it's yourself. Now what can you do? You can read Apozitude and share it with your friends. What do you have to look forward to? That's easy. The next Apozitude post and the smile on someone's face when you share love with them. Welcome to an option for happiness.
I needed this more today than I needed it yesterday. Glad I waited to read it. Serendipitous!
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