Staring myself right in the eyeball

If a purple coat and red jeans make you happy, then by god wear a purple coat and red jeans. No, I don't want a purple coat or red jeans, well, maybe red jeans, but it's an example of doing what you want to do regardless of what anyone else thinks.

I'm not talking about being disrespectful and throwing your hands up in the air as if to say, "Fuck it!!! I'm doing what I want and I don't care what anyone else thinks". I'm talking about being true to yourself and standing up for your own happiness. No one can MAKE you happy or MAKE you unhappy. If you think someone is making you unhappy it is simply because you are allowing them to do so. I have always loved the saying, "the circumstances of your life exist because you allow them to." And that, actually is a lie, I haven't ALWAYS loved that saying!

When I first heard it, I really hated it, because when I thought I was pointing my finger of blame at someone else all of the sudden the veil of illusion was lifted. When I looked back over at the person I thought I was blaming there was a fucking mirror and I was staring myself right in the eyeballs. I realized I am responsible for myself and my happiness. I could no longer allow myself to play that blame game.

Sometimes it sorta' feels like it would just be easier to blame someone else, right? What can I do? I don't have any control over how that person acts, I blame them for my unhappiness. Rather than taking responsibility and standing up for my own happiness, but,....

The wonderfully awesome thing about it though, is that realizing the circumstances of my life exist because I allow them to, ultimately gives me a tremendous amount of power.

And nothing says power like a damn hot pair of red skinny jeans or whatever the hell else I want!