Loving My Corny Life

There are times in life when we are are not at our most comfortable, most of the time it's because we are in a new situation and we're not accustomed to dealing with the circumstances of that new situation.

Recently, I met a young man who was in this very situation. Jason, my all time favorite rep, brought this young man, Oscar, to my office. Jason introduced Oscar as a young man he has known since Oscar was 15. He is now 22 and they met at a convention of some sort where young people go to meet business people. Honestly, I've forgotten the details regarding the convention, but what I do remember is that Oscar wrote letters to everyone he met there and Jason was the only person to respond to 15 year old Oscar's letter.

Jason has taken Oscar under his wing and has been coaching him on how to meet people in a professional setting and how to get lunch meetings set up. I was delighted to have been chosen as a trusted person to help with this process.

I could tell Oscar was a little nervous, but I thought he did well chatting with a new person in an unfamiliar place. It was a practice run. While we were talking Jason stepped away for a moment. As Oscar and I continued chatting, he began telling me about the things that he forgot. He explained he has a hard time remembering things when he gets nervous. "I can't remember anything", he said.

I told him I completely understood that nervous feeling and freezing up. My freeze up occurs when math of some sort is introduced into the situation, however I didn't believe that he couldn't remember anything. I told him there's a great deal of stuff going on when people meet for the first time, not only are you nervous, the person you're meeting could be too, so don't be hard on yourself if you don't remember their name or fine details that have already been discussed.

I feel like it's a big relief to people when you're honest with them and say something like, "I'm sorry, can you remind me of your name". Almost every time I say something like that to someone they follow up with something similar like, "Oh, I forgot your name too".

Be easy on yourself and talk to yourself in a positive manner. Begin telling yourself that you can remember things. Imagine yourself the way you would like to be and begin talking yourself into becoming that dream version of yourself. I guarantee in most situations that positive self talk is going to help you feel better. I understand it may feel a little awkward at first, praising yourself and talking yourself up, but the more "up" you feel, the better you will get at talking yourself up and the better you will feel.

If you don't believe in you, who will?

Who me? A life coach? Yes, I am. Just saying that gives me cold chills (coachills) lol I love my corny life.