Happy Valentine's Day

This is my very first Valentine's day, no not ever, I am 44 years old you know. However, it is my very first Valentine's day to be married to the love of my life, whom I now have the delightful pleasure of referring to as my wife. I don't think I will ever get tired of it.

I know that I have made kinda a big deal about it over the last 4 months, since we have been married, but you know what? It IS a big deal!!! Just try and love someone with all your heart and work on your relationship to be the best you can be for each other and have the government tell you, Nope! Your love for each other mars the idea "we" hold of marriage, so we deny you the right to be married like we the superior straight people and always for the sake of the children. Riiiight? BULL SHIT!!!! Is my love and level of commitment to Keri less than Joe's love is for Jane? I don't think so. I love keri with every fiber of my being and there is nothing I want more than to happily live out the rest of my days as her wife.

So, please do not read more into this than what it is, although I realize I have no control over how anyone perceives this, but I am not putting all straight people in one category. K? That would be pretty stereotypical and judgey of me. All I am doing is speaking passionatley about my feelings and I am SUPER grateful I live in an area of the counrty that is so open minded.

Even still, we had to go out of state to get married in a state that was kind enough to acknowledge that we deserved the same rights as any other couple that wanted to be married. We were married before it was even legally acknowledged in our own home state and that feels pretty fuckin' awesome. It feels like making history.

Thank you so much to all of the people out there that are straight allies in support of equality. Words can not even express the feelings of gratitude I feel for the love and acceptance I have experienced and have continued to feel as we make our way through the world today as wife and wife.

Happy Valentine's day to all shapes and sizes of love that are around the world. Love is love, right? That's what I believe anyway.

Equal Rights for ALL

Ok, so a couple months ago I decided I wanted to start incorporating the holidays and days of remembrance into my blog. It occurred to me on Veterans Day. I remember this because I kept having this feeling like I missed an opportunity to honor the service men and women by not writing about it. However, I did just get married the Friday before Veterans day. That was a pretty huge deal in my life and a pretty strong point of focus. I was so happy to be getting married and so excited about telling the world that I didn't even think about the Monday after my wedding day being Veterans Day.

The truth of it IS, is that the very first time I posted a blog about having a wife WAS on Veterans Day, so I did miss that opportunity to honor service men and women on that particular Veterans Day, but by being aware and acknowledging that I missed an opportunity is the perfect example of acceptance, progress, growth and love.

I accept responsibility for myself and the opportunity that I missed and I choose to turn it around. A mistake can turn into a lesson when you love yourself enough to accept yourself as a flawed person. The moment you feel self acceptance your shoulders drop and you begin to breath. As you feel the relief, like the second you let go, you create space in your mind and that space provides a place for positivity to flow in. It feels so amazing to pause,...let go,...and allow the positivity to flow in like an eternally flowing river.

So, in honor of all service men and women of all times, I am grateful for the freedoms I have to #1 have a wife and #2 have the freedom to express my utter joy about it with the world. I appreciate your service and protection.

And in honor of Martin Luther King I am writing about my appreciation for the people of the states that have stepped forward and said, NO!!! to discrimination against their gay brothers and sisters.