Let's talk about that,...

Keri and I decided we would make an agreement and we liked it so much that we decided to write it on the marker board on our fridge. The agreement we made I will share with you now, All feelings are valid.

I am absolutely loving this because, since we made this agreement, it makes it so much easier to have conversations about,... well,... everything. This agreement between us provides a safe place to discuss ANYTHING, because all feelings are valid. Doesn't that just make perfect sense? It's so simple and so profound I just have to restate it.

When there is an agreement in place between two people who all feelings are valid it creates a space of trust and safety. We know it is safe to talk about anything and we don't have to be afraid.

I believe the safety I feel in my relationship with Keri has allowed me to explore a side of myself that I had kept locked up deep inside of me for a very long time. I wrote about this in my blog entitled, Girl Water. I wondered a year ago if dipping my toe in the girl water and flirting with being more feminine was being true to myself. I mentioned that, "if it feels this good, it must be true to myself".

Well, here I am a year later still exploring this girlie side of myself and I am LOVING it. I like feeling pretty and it's not just about feeling pretty. It's more about a sense of confidence. A feeling of being true to myself. A feeling of saying what I want and being the me that I want to be. The me that is not afraid of being my whole true self. The me that doesn't really concern herself with what being my whole true self means to anyone else.

Just happy to be the me I love to be.

[caption id="" align="alignleft" width="720"] Aren't we cute?[/caption]