Today I am granting you permission to say, NO. Yes, I am talking to you. The one reading this who is thinking something along the lines of, Oh you just don't know my situation, and to that line of thinking, I have to agree. It is highly probabIe that I, in fact, do not know the exact details of your situation. I may not even know you at all, but what I do know is that the basis of the majority of problems is that fact that we are saying yes when we would much rather be saying no. Would you agree?
I would provide examples, but I feel certain you know exactly what I am talking about and your own exaples already popped up in your head. All I am trying to say is that sometimes people think if they work real hard and can try to solve all the problems that are presented to them, that achieving the end result will provide a sense of happiness. I am hear to tell you that it is a false premise.
I see people work their asses off all the time. Struggling along and getting all stressed out in the process and to what end? Are you pleased with yourself when you have spent your entire day wrestling the problems of the day to the ground? You do not have to solve ALL the problems of ALL the people around you. I used to have a similar belief and I know for me, it was really stressful to try and make all the people happy all the time.
I finally realized the only person's happiness that I can truely have an affect on is my own. I started saying no and requesting what it was that I wanted in my life to make me happy. AND do you know what? It really is ok to say no. I still have my job, I still have my happy loving relationship and it all is better than ever because I am focused on what makes me happy.
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