You should check out that boat,...

Have you ever known a person that would just blurt out some random comment? It's kinda like they are having a conversation with themselves in their mind and as if you can hear all of what's going on in their brain, they just blurt out some random comment. You look at them with a very confused look on your face and your thinking, What the hell are you talking about?

The funny thing about this is, I actually know a few people that do this and it seems very perplexing, especially when you are not very familiar with the person.

However, I happen to be one of these people, as well as my mom and my son. Usually, when it's my mom that just blurts out a random comment, I somehow know what she's talking about, and we always burst out in laughter. I guess it's because we know each other so well, we both know that she has just done this thing that nobody else would understand, but for some strange reason, even without being able to read her mind, I know exactly what she's talking about.

It has happened with Garrison as well. I'm not sure if it's me that's acutely in tune with my mom and son or if we all share this connection. Many times with Garrison, even though I have known what he was talking about, I've acted like I didn't, in an effort to sort of train him to be more aware of his communication style. I don't know if it helped or not, but that is what I thought was best. It was sort of like explaining to him as he was growing up what kind of expectations might be out in the world. I know his heart and his intentions, but a potential boss or girlfriend might not have this knowing and understanding of him. I tried to teach him and encourage him to be very clear with his communication. I have to admit it feels like I didn't get the message across, but then again maybe I did and he's just doing the best that he can with his current level of awareness and his particular set of challenges.

It's funny how I can start writing about some random thing and it turns into a post about something completely different. I have tons and tons of love for my son, but very little understanding. What I am ever grateful for regarding Garrison, is the knowing I have in my heart and the very depths of my soul that he will be just fine, whether I understand him or not.

However, regarding "that boat" in the title, I still remain utterly and completely clueless.

The best I can be

Understanding, that anyone other than yourself, is going to have a completely different perspective from you is an invaluable coping mechanism.

How can anyone have the exact same perspective as you? They have not experienced the same life events as you. If you have this idea in your mind when communicating with people it helps break down communication barriers, because when you have an awareness about the certainty of a different perspective it allows you to truly listen.

When you are hearing some one talk and have no awareness of this certain difference, you have a subconscious expectation that they will say something that you can agree upon. When something completely asinine comes out of their mouth, your jaw drops in utter surprise. You think, How in the hell can you think that is right? I don't know about you, but I feel the need to interrupt because I want to defend my perspective as the right way of thinking.

However, how can always being on the defense about my perspective expand my awareness. I am here to be the best me that I can be.

Therefore when entering into conversation I intend to set my ego aside and open my ears to the possibility of expanding my awareness.