Teach or fish, you decide

It can be so hard sometimes to see that the help we are giving someone is not really providing exactly what that person needs. Yes, they may need to get somewhere to do something that is in their best interest, but making it happen and taking them there just might not be serving their highest good.

It is like the difference between providing fish or providing fishing lessons. Yes, teaching someone to fish is harder and takes longer. It can be very difficult to watch too, as someone you love struggles with baiting the hook and pulling in an empty line time after time. It is especially hard when it would be so much easier to do it yourself, BUT if we actually practice patience and stick it out, we only have to teach them to fish one time. If we loose our patience in the moment and just do it for them, we will be doubling our work load for the rest of our lives. Fishing for ourselves and fishing for them.

Then we get pissed because they are doing exactly what we taught them to do, depend on us, when really, the person we should be upset with is ourselves. I am
not saying that dependence is a bad thing. No! Not at all. I'm just suggesting maybe consider a healthy balance. You need you too, so think about saving a little of yourself for you. It will begin to feel amazing.