I think it's pretty easy to state things in a positive manner, but I have been practicing for a very long time. Here's a fine example. I like the way, "Please remember" sounds as opposed to, "Don't forget". Personally, I am more inclined to remember something when it's phrased in this manner. Perhaps it's because, "Please remember" feels like a polite request and a considerate reminder. Where as, "Don't Forget" feels more like a doubting order.
When I meet someone new or learn their name after I've known them for a while and I want to remember their name, I say their name, "Meredith" and then I say, "I will remember your name is Meredith". It really helps me. It is important to me to remember a person's name.
It seems to me when you're able to call someone by their name it creates value in the relationship. It says to someone, "You matter...." and I like cultivating that feeling in people.
Showing posts with label Positive. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Positive. Show all posts
Thursday, October 30, 2014
Tuesday, July 22, 2014
IMO, They're ALL Love Songs
I kinda have a funny way of listening to songs. I only pay attention to the lyrics that I like. I could be listening to a very sad break up song and all I hear is the "how much I love you" parts. I don't even pay attention to the "you're gonna miss my love" parts.
Sometimes the way I sing love songs or think about them is very different than what they are intended, but I like the way I take a Richard Marx song and turn it into a spiritual awakening. The song Hold On To The Nights is very powerful to me, because when he sings the line, "I am helplessly aware that the person I've been searching for is right there", in my mind I am singing to a reflection of myself in the mirror.
It kinda seems like this may be perceived as a little self absorbed to sing to myself that I am the person I've always been looking for, but really it's not. I mean aren't we all on an endless journey of self discovery? Every time we grow or expand our awareness and our point of attraction changes. So, really, it only makes sense, that the person you are always searching for is right there in the mirror.
You're the one that has all the right answers for yourself anyway. Who else is going to know better what feels right for you? Only you. Start asking yourself some questions and be easy with yourself if you don't know the answers yet. Focus on something fun and all of your answers will be revealed. Soon you'll realize that everything is always working out.
Sometimes the way I sing love songs or think about them is very different than what they are intended, but I like the way I take a Richard Marx song and turn it into a spiritual awakening. The song Hold On To The Nights is very powerful to me, because when he sings the line, "I am helplessly aware that the person I've been searching for is right there", in my mind I am singing to a reflection of myself in the mirror.
It kinda seems like this may be perceived as a little self absorbed to sing to myself that I am the person I've always been looking for, but really it's not. I mean aren't we all on an endless journey of self discovery? Every time we grow or expand our awareness and our point of attraction changes. So, really, it only makes sense, that the person you are always searching for is right there in the mirror.
You're the one that has all the right answers for yourself anyway. Who else is going to know better what feels right for you? Only you. Start asking yourself some questions and be easy with yourself if you don't know the answers yet. Focus on something fun and all of your answers will be revealed. Soon you'll realize that everything is always working out.
Wednesday, May 28, 2014
When you're ready,...
Just about every time I talk to someone about my blog, I get the same question. What is Apozitude about? I usually say something along the lines of it being about my life experiences and how having a positive attitude affects me and my life, but recently I gave this explanation to someone and she asked in return, "Is that really all it's about?" She continued, "Correct me if I'm wrong, but I've read your blog and it seems to me it's not just about having a positive attitude, but more about being helpful" I've been giving that idea some thought and I'd have to agree. I don't always have a positive message, but it is my intention to be helpful.
I have a strong desire to be helpful and that is a big contributing factor as to why I write this blog. I was thinking about this concept of being helpful today and it occurred to me that I really do not care how my loved ones receive life changing messages. I simply want them to be exposed to the types of messages that create paradigm shifts in their lives. I want them to feel like they have choices and that they have the power to make decisions. I want them to feel comfortable about making mistakes. I want them to feel the awesomeness of taking risks and feeling success. I want my loved ones to feel love. I want them to know a sense of peace that passes the realm of understanding and I am not attached to the way they receive these messages, meaning it doesn't have to come from me.
The thing about wanting all those things for the people that I love is that I can not want it bad enough for them to receive it. They have to want it, and they have to want it enough to seek it out for themselves. All I can do is want it bad enough to seek it out for myself. I want to be happy. I want to be in a good mood. I want to have a peaceful mind. And guess what! I am happy. I am in a good mood and I do have a peaceful mind.
Whenever you are ready to attain it, it shall be yours as well.
I have a strong desire to be helpful and that is a big contributing factor as to why I write this blog. I was thinking about this concept of being helpful today and it occurred to me that I really do not care how my loved ones receive life changing messages. I simply want them to be exposed to the types of messages that create paradigm shifts in their lives. I want them to feel like they have choices and that they have the power to make decisions. I want them to feel comfortable about making mistakes. I want them to feel the awesomeness of taking risks and feeling success. I want my loved ones to feel love. I want them to know a sense of peace that passes the realm of understanding and I am not attached to the way they receive these messages, meaning it doesn't have to come from me.
The thing about wanting all those things for the people that I love is that I can not want it bad enough for them to receive it. They have to want it, and they have to want it enough to seek it out for themselves. All I can do is want it bad enough to seek it out for myself. I want to be happy. I want to be in a good mood. I want to have a peaceful mind. And guess what! I am happy. I am in a good mood and I do have a peaceful mind.
Whenever you are ready to attain it, it shall be yours as well.
Tuesday, May 27, 2014
Different stroke for different folks
It really does NOT matter what life brings into your experience. The only thing that matters is how you choose to deal with what is placed in front of you. The right attitude can change a situation from seeming quite grim into a situation that provides complete freedom. It all depends on your attitude and perspective.
Notice, I did not say a positive attitude. You might expect the author of Apozitude to say a positive attitude can make the difference and though that is true for me, that doesn't necessarily mean that is the truth for everyone. It is important to understand what is right for you.
What might be right for me may not be right for you.
A positive attitude for me, can change a gloomy atmosphere into a miniature dance party, even if there is no music what-so-ever and even if I am the only one dancing.
You do what is right for you and I'll do what's right for me.
Notice, I did not say a positive attitude. You might expect the author of Apozitude to say a positive attitude can make the difference and though that is true for me, that doesn't necessarily mean that is the truth for everyone. It is important to understand what is right for you.
What might be right for me may not be right for you.
A positive attitude for me, can change a gloomy atmosphere into a miniature dance party, even if there is no music what-so-ever and even if I am the only one dancing.
You do what is right for you and I'll do what's right for me.
Wednesday, May 21, 2014
It really can be that simple
Sitting in my writing chair today and trying to get to a place of still mind enough to begin writing. I've got my head phones on and I am so busy scanning my brain for a point of positive focus that I could not even hear the words streaming into my ears. It took me about 2 and a half minutes to slow my thoughts long enough to realize that Kool and the Gang was on and were singing directly into my ears these exact words: Cherish the love we have, We should cherish the life we live. Cherish the love. Cherish the life.
Search no more. Right?
It is all very simple. Cherish the love. Cherish the life. You get to decide what that means for you.
Search no more. Right?
It is all very simple. Cherish the love. Cherish the life. You get to decide what that means for you.
Tuesday, March 18, 2014
Raise your hand if you've had a pretend crush
Forty five is young and I'm only 44. HA! It's a fantastic age to be. I am in love with my life and NOT just because it rhymes, but also my wife. I'm just cheesy like that. Maybe I should call this blog Cheesitude,... No, I like Apozitude MUCH better.
One of the many reasons I love my life is directly related to this blog. I really am surprised how much I love writing, although I suppose I shouldn't be surprised. I've kept a journal of some sort all my life. The first journal that sticks in my mind is one I kept when I was 12. It had a red and green plaid fabric cover. Oh how I wish I still had that preteen drama love struck filled book, alas, I can distinctly recall throwing it in a dumpster long about 18 years old.
The only reason that particular journal sticks out in my mind is because of a single entry. I remember on my 13th birthday I wrote in red ink. I was wrought with so much conflict and unrequited love. Seventh grade is difficult for most people and I am not saying that my seventh grade experience was more difficult than others, but from my confused perspective it sure did seem like it. I was in love with one or two of my friends and both of them were, of course, interested in boys. One of them, in fact, had a crush on the boy that I was pretending to have a crush on to blend in and divert attention away from my true feelings towards my friends.
One night one of those friends (true crush) was spending the night at my house and the boy I was pretending to have a crush on called my house. He asked to speak to my friend and before they got off the phone they were going together. Talk about a broken heart. Pretend crush boy asks real crush girl and she says yes. 12-10-1982 - Broken hearted little confused gay girl writes in red on her 13th birthday how she doesn't think she can go on living this painfully confusing life. I tried to think of ways to end my life and I even tried, but I just didn't have quite enough torment to follow through. I had my coping mechanisms that helped me get through those tough times.
Luckily, my mom was willing and able to send me to counseling. I don't remember sharing those suicidal feelings with my mom, but she paid very close attention to me and she had me in counseling at a very early age. I had people I could talk to, I have always known beyond a shadow of a doubt that my mom loved me and I had my writing.
So, I guess it's pretty clear I wasn't ever able to go through with any of those thoughts of ending it all and what the hell does all that downer stuff have to do with a blog called Apozitude???? Well, I'll tell you. I spoke to a friend of mine today that has been following this blog and telling her friends about it. She told me today that one of my blogs was a life changer for her. A life changer. I'm not implying that she was having suicidal thoughts, I just mean that something I wrote changed her perspective and changed her life. That is pretty fucking awesome and that is just one of many reasons I love writing this blog. It brings tears of joy to my eyes and fills my heart with hope that writing my little stories can have such an affect on a person. It just takes a slight shift in the perspective of one person the change the world.
One person at a time, I intend to have a positive affect on the world and facilitate change that will create a better place to be. Starting with me and starting now.
One of the many reasons I love my life is directly related to this blog. I really am surprised how much I love writing, although I suppose I shouldn't be surprised. I've kept a journal of some sort all my life. The first journal that sticks in my mind is one I kept when I was 12. It had a red and green plaid fabric cover. Oh how I wish I still had that preteen drama love struck filled book, alas, I can distinctly recall throwing it in a dumpster long about 18 years old.
The only reason that particular journal sticks out in my mind is because of a single entry. I remember on my 13th birthday I wrote in red ink. I was wrought with so much conflict and unrequited love. Seventh grade is difficult for most people and I am not saying that my seventh grade experience was more difficult than others, but from my confused perspective it sure did seem like it. I was in love with one or two of my friends and both of them were, of course, interested in boys. One of them, in fact, had a crush on the boy that I was pretending to have a crush on to blend in and divert attention away from my true feelings towards my friends.
One night one of those friends (true crush) was spending the night at my house and the boy I was pretending to have a crush on called my house. He asked to speak to my friend and before they got off the phone they were going together. Talk about a broken heart. Pretend crush boy asks real crush girl and she says yes. 12-10-1982 - Broken hearted little confused gay girl writes in red on her 13th birthday how she doesn't think she can go on living this painfully confusing life. I tried to think of ways to end my life and I even tried, but I just didn't have quite enough torment to follow through. I had my coping mechanisms that helped me get through those tough times.
Luckily, my mom was willing and able to send me to counseling. I don't remember sharing those suicidal feelings with my mom, but she paid very close attention to me and she had me in counseling at a very early age. I had people I could talk to, I have always known beyond a shadow of a doubt that my mom loved me and I had my writing.
So, I guess it's pretty clear I wasn't ever able to go through with any of those thoughts of ending it all and what the hell does all that downer stuff have to do with a blog called Apozitude???? Well, I'll tell you. I spoke to a friend of mine today that has been following this blog and telling her friends about it. She told me today that one of my blogs was a life changer for her. A life changer. I'm not implying that she was having suicidal thoughts, I just mean that something I wrote changed her perspective and changed her life. That is pretty fucking awesome and that is just one of many reasons I love writing this blog. It brings tears of joy to my eyes and fills my heart with hope that writing my little stories can have such an affect on a person. It just takes a slight shift in the perspective of one person the change the world.
One person at a time, I intend to have a positive affect on the world and facilitate change that will create a better place to be. Starting with me and starting now.
Wednesday, January 1, 2014
Happy New Year!!!!!
Happy New year Apozitude readers!!!! We are one month away from our 6 month anniversary. Thank you so much for your support and I will do my best to keep the positive, funny and touching stories flowing into your inboxes. May 2014 bring you all the best of everything!!! Much love, Angel
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